What Is Confident Rapport?
The majority of theories on how to pick
up girls were compiled by guys who had problems with women and tried to
get better. Therein lies the very nature of the problems with most
theory. They all assume that you, going over to the girl, have less
value then her. By assuming this, you''re forced to play a role of
lower value. Why on earth are you assuming you are worth less then the
girl? I don''t care how hot she is!
This is especially true of the rapport
versus attraction theory. The theory is: assuming you have two glasses
that you need to fill attraction and rapport, the attraction glass must
be filled before she will pay attention to your rapport. Well this
theory suffers greatly from ''my rapport isn''t high enough value for
her to listen to.
What your saying is that you have to
WORK for her ATTENTION. By thinking this, you PLAY into the role of
having less value. Let me put it to you this way, if you are a nerd and
you walk over to a hot girl and she says "bug off," you''re probably
going to turn around and walk away right? Then your going to come up
with strategies to make her pay attention. Now what if you were better
looking then Brad Pitt, had more money then Donald Trump, and she said
that. You would probably laugh. And she would respond differently
because you responded differently.
You see all the outer problems stem
from internal responses. What you believe shapes your reality. And if
you believe you need to fill an attraction glass- that you need to
fight for her attention you are falling into the frame that you are
inherently NOT good enough.
Well my friend, this is BASED on FALSE
assumptions that you are not good enough and therefore must get her
interested. If you assume anything at all- instead assume she loves to
hear your rapport and get to know you. All people WANT- NEED to be
loved. they just have filters. You should assume your better then the
guys she filters out, and laugh away any resistance. Why bother
juggling and dancing, and doing all kinds of routines just to get her
attention. Respond differently to resistance, respond with confidence
and you can forget the two glass theory. How you respond to her should
MAKE her interested by displaying a stronger reality.
Like my business partner Cameron Teone
always used to say- it is like the scene in the Matrix where Neo must
jump across the buildings. He can''t do it until he truly believes.
Well, I am telling you to believe in yourself and knock over the
attraction glass. You DON''T need it. It is a theory born from
insecurity.
All you need is rapport: confident
rapport. So what’s the difference between insecure rapport and
confident rapport? It comes down to your inner beliefs. Do you believe
she''s going to listen and like what you have to say about yourself.
You should. In fact she should be hanging on every word you say because
you believe she needs you. If you have that inch of doubt, that means
you believe she isn''t ATTRACTED to you, and you need to build the
attraction then. But what if you didn''t have that doubt? Girls can
smell confidence, and they can definitely detect any insecurity. They
will see the confidence you have in yourself when you are straight
forward and you just assume they will like you. And they WILL respond
positively. Remember an inch of doubt and you''re dead in the water.
The next big question is how can I get this confidence? Well... see us at a workshop.
Seth Parker
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