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Hi Doc,
I took a girl out on a date and we had a nice time. During the date,
she kept telling me: “We should do this again” so later, I asked her
out for a second date. She accepted.
When the day of our second date came, she left a message on my
answering machine telling me she couldn't make it. I called her the
following day and she apologized for canceling. We rescheduled our date
for a week later.
The evening of the date came and I got another phone call – it was her
calling to cancel again! I asked her whether she was sure she wanted to
see me, and she said yes. We arranged another date for the end of the
week.
To my surprise, I got a call from her the next day, asking me out for
lunch. Since I hadn’t seen her for so long, I eagerly accepted this
offer. The lunch went well; we ended up holding hands. Unfortunately,
when I kissed her, she became quite withdrawn.
The next day, she called me to tell me that she wanted to stop seeing
me. She said that she still had feelings for her ex-boyfriend and was
confused. After talking to her a while, I talked her into going out
with me again.
It took two calls to reach her after that. When I finally did reach
her, she sounded genuinely happy to speak to me. She told me that she
would call me that weekend to arrange a meeting. She never called.
What’s your advice?
Marcus – who just wants another date?
Hi Marcus,
The first time your girl canceled your date, you should have known it was over. A broken date means it’s time to quit, bro.
Guys have been jerked around so much by women in their dating lives
that they’ve forgotten how women with high Interest Level behave - this
is why they accept broken dates as a normal fact of life. If men would
only think back on the number of dates they have broken with the women
they were interested in (zero), they wouldn’t keep calling back the
women who repeatedly kick them in the teeth!
In case you’ve forgotten what a woman with high Interest Level is like, Marcus, let me give you her profile.
When a woman truly likes a guy: she gives her home phone number without
hesitation, she’s always there to take his call when he phones her, she
accepts invitations without excuses and above all - she never break
dates. In other words, a woman with high Interest Level is
straightforward.
In contrast, women with low Interest Level give mixed signals. They may
give you their phone number, but they will tell you that sometimes the
phone doesn’t work. They may tell you how much they want to see you,
but when you call them, they never seem to be home. Or, if you are
lucky enough to get them on the phone, they always have a busy
schedule. Then - if you somehow manage to get a date, something
always seems to come up to prevent you from meeting. This last scenario
describes yours, Marcus.
The moment this girl canceled your second date over your answering
machine (rejecting you to a machine instead of to your face - what a
classy lady!), it was clear that she was ineligible for your time. In
spite of her cajoling words and the token lunch date she gave you, her
broken date betrayed the lack of desire in her heart.
Women with low Interest Level are consistent only about one thing:
breaking dates. This fact should make your course of action obvious: If
woman breaks a date, tear up her phone number and flush it down the
toilet.
Using this strategy, Marcus, can help you quickly cut through the
confusion arising from a woman’s mixed signals. If you had used this
tactic on your girl, there would have been no need to talk her into
seeing you instead of her ex-boyfriend (By the way, if she had liked
you, she would have forgotten all about him.).
Of course, it’s possible – though extremely rare - for a woman to have
a genuine emergency on the night of your date. But in these cases, she
would call only to change the day and time of the date – not to cancel
it completely.
Guys, staying with a girl after a broken date is pure masochism. When
you don’t call after a broken date, at least you can save your
self-respect. Women with low Interest Level may repeatedly tell you how
interested they are, but as my cousin Fast Eddie Love would say, “Words
whisper, but actions scream.”
About the author
Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in
his seminars. For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do
you stay with one man versus another?"
Guys, e-mail me at doclove@doclove.com
with your love challenges. All will be answered, but because of space, only
letters of general interest will be printed. To find out more about The
"System" visit me at: www.doclove.com or
(800) 404-2644. Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who
coaches men in his seminars. For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of
women, "Why do you stay with one man versus another?" |
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Of course, it’s possible – though extremely rare - for a woman to have a genuine emergency on the night of your date. But in these cases, she would call only to change the day and time of the date – not to cancel it completely.
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